The sabotage of others in your attempt to lose weight
There are several reasons why someone might want to sabotage your weight loss efforts.
It is important to remember why you are starting the effort and to often remind yourself how you think you will benefit. It is a good idea to write down the reasons you want to lose weight on a piece of paper.
Explain to those close to you why it is so important for you to lose weight this time. Others may not realize that this time you really mean it.
Not everyone needs to know that you are dieting. You can say I’m just not hungry now or I just ate or put it in a package to eat at home. Do not forget that by eating something because someone is pressuring you or because you do not want him to start asking you if you are dieting, you will satisfy the other and then you will be angry with yourself that you ate it. In this way you reduce the insecurity of the other and increase your own. Why do this?
Explain to your friend that losing weight could benefit your relationship, not harm it. That it will help you feel better about your body and have more confidence is something that could improve the atmosphere between you and in a relationship we are fine when we are both well alone on our own first and then together. If one does not feel good about oneself this negatively affects a relationship.
It is normal for you to miss something at times. So ask others to help you, reminding you why you started the effort and not to bring you what you asked to leave them alone.
Ask them not to have high expectations of you so as not to stress you out. If they see you exaggerating, it is important for them to tell you that something did not happen once, that deprivation is not normal, and that they believe in you and your success.
Because every person is different, it would be good to explain to others what helps you and what does not. Maybe a way to lose weight worked for a friend. But that does not mean that you should do the same. There are several methods for weight loss. Choose the one that suits you!